Each wife’s story and each marriage is unique.  I write primarily for wives who tend to be dominating, controlling, “overly-helpful,” perfectionistic and disrespectful in their marriages.  Most of us don’t realize that we are doing these things and aren’t purposely doing them.  Many of us start out thinking we HAVE to act the way we do because our husbands “won’t” or “can’t” lead.  That’s what I used to think!

I have walked beside hundreds of women on this journey now, and, of course, I have been walking it myself for almost 5 years now.    It took me over 2 years before I BEGAN to feel like I had any clue what I was doing with respect and biblical submission.  It felt VERY awkward and foreign at first.  And I scrambled trying to learn from many different books but I felt like I was having to reinvent the wheel by…

I can feel Real.

I saw it this morning.  Soggy, pouring, grace- like-rain dripping  down over a crusty dried-up soul.  But the Real said something different this morning, it said what if.

It said What IF.  What if  you fought for Real instead of against Unreal?

An invitation to bring Me your tired and your poor.  Quit fighting against what you see and instead fight for the unseen.

The truth is my soul is empty and I don’t know how it can be empty and filled up with grace at the same time but it is.

I’ve long said that slick and shiny make me sick.  My husband and I have a decades long aversion to slick.  This morning I was over at A Holy Experience reading Ann Voskamp’s words.  She said….

When everything is slick, it can be hard to hold on to Jesus.  

And grace-like-rain pours…

 A Tale of  Ambush by Sexist Feminists

I am tired of hearing that, because I am a woman, I must think a certain way or vote for a particular candidate.  The notion that women should be allowed to think for themselves is certainly foundational to the feminist movement, but you would never know that listening to heads of various women’s organizations, prattling on about how women do not support Romney.

They don’t speak for me, and they certainly do not think for me.

These “women’s leaders” claim that one candidate is anti-woman because he does not want to force all employers to provide insurance coverage for contraceptives.  Does caring about women require the religious freedom of some to be infringed to provide a financial benefit to others? Cheaper gas would free up a lot of money for contraceptives or whatever else a woman might decide she values most.

They…

Twenty-seven years ago I became a mother and upon seeing this new little life for the very first time, I remember her presence creating an aura of time standing still. I held her, cradled her and was captured by a moment of her entering into my life.

Ask my daughters, I’ve told them this story often over the years. It’s the miracle of birth as I like to call it.

I thought that story was a part of the past until….

After traveling by plane, bus and train I arrived in Oxford, England to see my daughter graduate with her Masters. After finding and settling into my own room, a short distance from where my daughter is living, I picked my way through the maze of parents, students, tourists and locals to our prearranged meeting destination.

Standing in reception, waiting, observing the surroundings, I saw this woman striding towards…