Years ago my guy and I used the term ’get lucky’ when talking about having sex. I would tease him, saying that he was only loading the dishwasher in hopes of getting lucky, or tell him what his chances of getting lucky were on a given day. My whole perspective changed when one of those times, he said a simple sentence:
I really wish you saw it as getting lucky sometimes, too.
What a novel concept. So I did.
Why is it that we’ve held to the belief as women, especially Christian women, that sex is something from which only men benefit? I like my husband – a lot – and when I figured out that was not only acceptable but a good thing it was life changing.
I think for Christian women especially it goes back to before marriage – hearing the church message of don’t have sex, don’t have sex translated into sex is bad, and it’s your responsibility to prevent it from happening. Hard to switch gears. Thanks for your comment.
Yes – I think that has a lot to do with it. Beyond that though I think it’s just a perception that somehow it’s “man” thing. I taught a Christian Ed class based off of the book “Intimate Moments” and I remember one of the older ladies, who grew up in a Christian home, told us that right before she got married her mother, who had never really talked to her about sex before, told her, “It’s just one of those things you have to endure for the good of your husband and marriage.” I know that is old school, but I think some of that has hung on.
AMEN!!! After all it is oneness we are most wanting right?
I’ll take one of those signs for our bedroom please : ) We make magic baby! : ) Thanks for being real about sex. Not many are brave enough.
I love this sign, too! Think it would mortify my kids…
When the two of you share the same goal, whether sex, life, or love, I would think both of you are lucky. Sharing in a relationship is what God intended.
Well said! Thanks so much for reading!