What were you thinking??
Are you serious??
I just don’t trust you.
Three statements that can crush a man. There are many more, but they all share similar characteristics; from the woman they love, these words inflict wounds that do not heal.
I don’t think most women understand how much impact we have on our men. There are so many jokes floating around about selective listening and how men tune out our words, but I think they listen very carefully. At least, early in the relationship I am quite sure of it. Over time they may feel forced to close you out in order to survive.
Your guy is looking for support, encouragement and grace that only you can give. He doesn’t need judgment or doubt, he hears that all day already. When he shares a crazy dream for your future together, instead of telling him all the reasons it won’t work and belittling his ideas, say something like, “I don’t think I understand. I’d like to hear more about that.”
When he asks if he has what it takes, instead of using the opportunity to share your doubts in his abilities, try, “I believe in you.”
And when he messes up and asks for your forgiveness, instead of reminding him of all the past hurts inflicted, respond with, “I forgive you.”
I have talked with so many men over the years who share that they feel paralyzed with doubt in their own abilities, afraid that they do not have what it takes. The difference can be the words that you are speaking into his life, detailing his strengths and potential.Your response to your man is incredibly powerful, that saying, ‘behind a great man is a great woman’ should be, ‘behind every great man is an encouraging woman.’
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. Proverbs 21:9
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
“Behind every great man is an encouraging woman.” LOVE this. ❤
Great post! Very much needed 🙂
Thanks for reading!
Awesome words of wisdom! Thank you for sharing this. I will share your words with our marriage group ladies!
Thank you for your kind words!