Suppose an investigator walked through your house without you being there, gathering clues about who you are as a family. What would they conclude? If a MPAA rating were to be placed on the environment, what would it be?
Consider the books being read, the movies and TV shows ingested and the language and tone thrown around.
Over the years the rating would have changed in our house as our kids have grown up, books didn’t seem to matter before our kids were readers, TV shows were watched after they went to bed and we were very careful about our language in front of the children. These days some of those details have flipped; books are downloaded and available to all, as are all movies watched and this tends to change the standard by which our entertainment is chosen. Language is looser these days, meaning the jokes are less appropriate and often with an edge – this after years of not being allowed to say ‘butt’ or ‘shut up’!
Sometimes I don’t understand the ratings difference in a PG-13 or a R rated movie, weighing violence, sex and language on a scale can be objective. It seems to me that there is often a fine line between the two in our house as well, how much snarkiness and cynicism do we allow in a house full of teenagers, how gross can the jokes be before going too far? The line gets pushed on a regular basis, and as parents it’s our job to be vigilant. We must be intentional with the games, movies and friends we allow into our homes because these factors affect the air we breathe.
This is a personal decision for couples to make together, deciding on what is and more importantly, what isn’t allowed in the home. I think we sit at the PG-13 level for the most part and I’m good with that. I want our home to be remembered as a safe place where our family preferred to be, but with room to show and experience grace, as well.
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Mark 14:38