I was sitting with friends last night after dinner, but right before the fireworks. We were still at the table, me with two couples. A woman said that she had never given marriage a thought until she met her husband and the other woman said to the first woman’s guy, “Oh, you ruined her!” We laughed at her choice of words but she defended herself by making the coolest statement:
“Actually, that’s exactly what I meant to say, and it’s not a bad thing at all.
I have learned from recent new friends and relationships that it is okay to be vulnerable and to show my true self.
So I have been ruined, and sometimes it’s disappointing that I can’t be this way with everyone.”
I love that! I want to be ruined too. I want to be ruined by authenticity and depth. I want to be ruined for real, good relationships. I want to be ruined for Jesus. I sure am hoping she was counting me as one of those ruinous relationships….