Improving your love life is an intentional exercise; it’s not something that just happens to you. It can be very easy to let time go by without regard to how we are spending it. I knew this was true for me, and I didn’t know how to determine if I was improving my lovelife, so I started scoring myself with a simple exercise.
At the end of the day, think back to your time and decide if you did something to show your love for God during the day; spending time in prayer, reading the Bible, participating in a Bible study, listening for God’s direction in your life, worshiping God, etc. If so, give yourself one point.
Now think about how you loved others. Did you give selflessly in any way today by telling someone how important they are to you, serving someone with no regard for being repaid, showing grace when your natural inclination would be to judge or condemn? If so, give yourself one point.
Finally, have you shown yourself love today, taking care of your physical needs by being active or eating foods that sustain you, doing something that you truly enjoy, or showing yourself the grace that you may desperately need? If so, give yourself a point.
Add up the points and see how you do over a specific time frame. I have found this is a simple way for me to track my progress, and to identify the area where I lack most. I have been doing this for a couple of years and have not scored perfectly for a month yet, if I am being completely honest with myself. Remember that this isn’t just something that is supposed to make you feel good, this is the template that Jesus used in explaining the how Christians should live.
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: love your neighbor as you love yourself. There is no commandment greater than these. Mark 12:30-31