Love does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:5
Are you a score keeper? I am embarrassed to say that I was. For years I was convinced that my husband wasn’t giving his all in our marriage. It felt like he was trying to get away with doing the least amount of work, and it was my job to catch him and put another number against him. In my mind he was so far in the hole, he could never climb out, even if he wanted to! I just wanted him to give 100% all the time, like I was doing, was that so much to ask?
Then my world got rocked. My parents divorced after 40+ years together with no chance of reconciliation, no counseling, and no real explanation. I was in shock for several months, processing this foreign terrain that I had no desire for. I didn’t have the energy to work, to take care of our family and home or to socialize. It would be safe to say that I wasn’t giving our marriage the time of day, much less 100%. But my husband was. He was praying over me and over our family, he showed me so much grace as I was grieving, and he never kept score.
It occurred to me that in our marriage we need to give 100% together, not each. Rarely is this a 50/50 deal, usually one of us is carrying the bulk of the load while the other is learning, growing, reeling or just exhausted from life. There was no longer a need for a score card; I had to trust that my husband was doing the best that he could, and my job was to join him, not compete with him.
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I, too learned this lesson. You have a great way of conveying this message.
I really appreciate your encouragement.
This is a great word! It’s so easy to whip out the score card when we are feeling over worked and under appreciated. I too had to learn that love doesn’t keep score.
Sigh….may we lose those score cards once and for all! Thanks for your comment!
So sorry about your parents divorce but thankful that it did not make you cynical but rather even more appreciative and committed to your marriage. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much for your comment. Isaiah 55:10-11 was the verse I held onto during that time, a reminder that God is aware of every drop of rain that falls and uses each drop. I’m hoping He is using even this. Thanks for reading.